We all know that on the day, bridesmaids are expected to support the bride as much as possible getting her into her gown, calming her nerves and cold feet, and generally being on hand for any duties that crop up. However, when you are a bridesmaid, you may also be asked to help out with some things that you don’t expect, both on and before the day. Keep reading to discover what they might be.

Bachelorette Party

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Being a modern bridesmaid kind of means you need to be ready for anything, including organizing a killer bachelorette party. OK, some brides want to arrange these themselves, but for many, it can be a pleasure to let someone else step into the driving seat for a bit and just sit back and relax while the fun happens.


So if you do find yourself in this position as a bridesmaid, then make sure you get as organized as possible. It’s vital to give everyone attending enough time to save for the event because as discussed at http://www.cosmopolitan.com/lifestyle/a45507/, the cost can be a major issue. Also,  it can help to let the other attendees have a vote in what you do. As not everyone will want to do every activity, and that’s fine. Just make sure there is a good variety to keep everyone as pleased as possible. As this will help you live up to your role as a successful bridesmaid. I also think it’s possible to ‘overthink’ the hen party, and often something simple that appeals to everyone is the way to go, and this can avoid it being too pricy for everyone involved too.

Wedding Ring Advice


Another unexpected role that you may find yourself fulfilling when you are involved in the bridal party is offering honest advice to the bride. Remember there are so many choices the bride and groom have to make when they get married, it can really be overwhelming, leaving both parties doubting their own opinions. Particularly, on the important long-term things like picking the right wedding rings.

However, that is just where the help of a good bridesmaid can be useful. As an honest, objective, and informed opinion can make the choices that they happy couple do have to make that bit easier.

To get a jump on this why not use sites like http://yourdiamondguru.com/reviews/kay-jewelers-review/ to get some advice on where to buy the rings. Then you can be the voice of reason in the mire of indecision.

Although of course, it does always help to wait until you are asked, or until things really get to a  crisis point before offering some advice in a gentle manner like the ways suggested at https://zenhabits.net/how-to-give-kind-criticism-and-avoid-being-critical/. As no bride wants to feel bossed around concerning anything to do with her special day!

Running Guest Interference

Lastly, you may not expect it, but it’s quite likely that you will be asked to run some guest interference on the day as a bridesmaid. This includes keeping an eye on some of the more frail attendees like the ones described at https://www.caring.com/questions/alzheimers-and-wedding, and even the more rowdy ones!

After all, no one wants Uncle Bob breakdancing on the floor because he has one too many whiskeys! So it’s up to you to ensure that he paces himself and has the occasional soft drink in between shots!

My girls were such a special part of my wedding day. Above all; support the bride and be a great friend! She will be so grateful.

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Deciding to get married abroad can be a daunting experience.  There are many reasons that couples may decide they want to tie the knot somewhere other than their home country, ranging from dreams of beach weddings and beautiful scenery to escaping the stress, fuss and all that comes with a wedding. That’s not to say that getting married in another country wasn’t stressful, but from what I’ve heard it was a lot less stressful than it could have been if we’d done it at home in London!

We were lucky. Some couples who make this decision are met with families who disapprove and loved ones who can’t make it for whatever reason. Things can be challenging planning a wedding from a long way away where you can’t see things in person. Culture and language barriers can also be an issue. However, my advice to couples who dream of a destination wedding would be – DO IT! It was amazing and I wouldn’t change it for the world.

Here are some hints and tips for any couples preparing to navigate the sometimes complicated business of planning a wedding abroad.

❤️ It’s your day! Please, please remember this every step of the way. It’s so important to have the wedding that you and your partner want; not what everyone else wants. This still applies when the wedding is abroad. You may get a few eyes rolls or grumbles but just politely explain to everyone that this is your dream day and they will soon come round.

❤️ Having said that, you will need to accept that some people won’t be able to make it. Potentially some important people who you would never have imagined wouldn’t be at your wedding. Expense, time off work, children and even more unforeseeable things like health can effect people’s ability to attend. If the idea that every single member of your extended family and friendship circle has to be there then getting married abroad possibly isn’t for you.

❤️ Be sensible. If you’re choosing a beach wedding in a baking hot location then you chose it for a reason – hopefully you are a bride who wants quite a relaxed/beachy vibe?? I wore a loose fitting dress and flat sandals. A ballgown style and pair of Jimmy Choo’s would not have been appropriate. Equally, please don’t force your hubby to be into a 3 peice suit and tie in 30 degree heat!! Same applies for guests. They need to be comfortable so don’t impose a strict dress code.

❤️ Make the most of the scenery. You are in a beautiful place, you have hired a photographer – use the beauty to your advantage! Looking back on photographs is one of the best things after the wedding and you can treasure them forever. In my opinion having something different as the backdrop is truly special. We even went for a photoshoot the next day underwater in our wedding outfits which was truly amazing! I love looking at the pictures.

❤️ Use a planner. I cannot stress this enough! Some, very brave, couples do attempt to co-ordinate their weddings from the UK but I just could not deal with the stress of it! We used Zante Weddings, the longest running and most experienced wedding planner in Zante, and they couldn’t have been better. Having someone who is a) in the country to liase with vendors b) speaks the language and c) actually knows all the best companies on the island was invaluable. I definitely couldn’t have done it myself. Frances, the owner of the planners, was fantastic and managed to get everything we wanted and more.

TRUST YOUR PLANNER. If you are hiring a local wedding planner then you must trust them to organise your big day. I understand it can be hard to relinquish control of the more special day of your life but it’s important to remember that they have done this before. 100 times. They seriously know what they are doing. When having your wedding abroad there are certain things that you just can’t micro manage to the same level as you can in the UK; e.g. you can’t taste the cake flavours, see the exact colour of the table cloths or choose every single individual flower for your bouquet. This isn’t for everyone, but I loved having the stress of a million decisions being taken out of my hands. We gave our planners a vague theme and colour scheme and they delivered flowers, décor and food which was better than we ever could have imagined. Choose your planner carefully and trust them to give you your perfect day.

Relax and enjoy. Chances are, you decided to tie the knot abroad to avoid some of the usual stresses and strains that come with a UK wedding – so make sure you actually chill out and enjoy yourself! Not only are you having your dream wedding day and marrying the love of your life – but you’re also combining it with a gorgeous holiday. I was sunbathing and doing yoga by the pool the morning of my wedding! You, your hubby and all your guests will be on a holiday high and what could be more amazing than a giant holiday with family and friends. Have a ball.

I hope these tips help any couples thinking of taking the plunge and getting married somewhere other than the UK. From one bride to another; you won’t regret it!

I believe that the first day nerves are something that we all encounter at every stage of our lives. Whether it be first day of pre school, secondary school, university or a new job it’s something that anyone can relate to. Recently, I had my first day at a new university as a post grad education student. And I was proper nervous! Believe me when I say I’ve had a lot of first days (13 meaningless jobs before I was 23 anyone??) but it didn’t stop me from being apprehensive about this one.

However, as I have got a wide range of experience being a ‘newbie’ in various situations, I have developed a few techniques for keeping those first day nerves under control and (hopefully) getting off to a smooth start.

💜 Take a deep breath and stand up tall. It may seem obvious but if you don’t feel confident – fake it! Deep breathing exercises can really help reduce nerves and bring a feeling of focus if you are getting in a panic. Also, standing up straight with your shoulders back really does tend make you feel better- try it!

💜 Keep it friendly and make the effort. I find meeting new people, especially loads in one go like you will on your first day, a real worry! Once I’m comfortable with people I’m fine but I can start out really quiet. However, I always make a real effort on first days to chat to people, remember names and be friendly. I know that some people can be the opposite and nerves can make them blurt out opinions and awkward jokes! I’d advise to keep it light at the beginning until you’ve gauged your audience!

💜 Be prepared. Wherever you are going you will feel more relaxed if you know what you’re going into! For example; I had some pre-course tasks for my new postgrad course which I’m so glad I did. If you are starting a new job you may like to do some research on the company and brush up on what’s expected of you.

💜 Visualisation. This may sound strange but sometimes we can build things up in our head to be way worse than they will be in reality. If you’ve got months of thinking about/dreading your first day then you may start imagining it to be awful. Or maybe you will just push it from your mind and not think about it at all. Either way, having a reality check and actually visualising, or ‘rehearsing’, the day in your head can help ease anxiety. What things are likely to happen? You are likely to meet new people, need to introduce yourself, find your way around a new building etc. If you pre-imagine these things you will be less likely to panic and awkwardly introduce yourself as the wrong name and spend the rest of your time there answering to two names because you’re too embarrassed to point it out (not that it’s ever happened to me or anything).

💜 Be yourself. Because you are great! Believe in yourself; you CAN do it and everyone has to be the newbie at some stage. You’ll be fine 🙂

I hope someone will find this helpful. Do you get nervous for first day’s or do you find them a breeze?

xox

The post-bridal blues is real. Seriously. You have spent months (sometimes years) planning and agonizing over every last detail, primping and preparing, switching between feeling excitement butterflies and sickening nerves – for one day. On this day, you are the total and utter centre of attention, people are tripping over themselves to help you, telling you how beautiful and radiant and wonderful you are (vain, I know) and what an amazing couple you make. The camera is flashing, wine is flowing, you marry the love of your life. Honestly, it’s so amazing.

But then it ends. You go to sleep a bride and wake up a wife.

BUT not to worry because if you’re lucky you’ve got a blissful week or two in paradise to ease you into married life. You have the best holiday of your life, you are so incredibly happy and you can’t wait to start your married life with your shiny new hubby.

Before you know it, you’re home. Back to work, in the same job, in the same house and you are happy, of course you are.. but it’s like… What now?!

The wedding leaves a great gaping whole in your life. Not gunna lie.

Based on my own experience of post-bridal blues and because I want to help other newlyweds avoid sitting around in their PJ’s sulking like I did, here are some ideas to beat the after wedding black hole:

 Redesign your home. 

If you already lived together as a couple the likelihood is you are not moving into a brand spanking new marital home right now, just the same old one. Getting creative and buying a few new bits, decorating or even just moving things around can help things feel a bit fresher and a can recreate some of that ‘newlywed bliss’.

♥  Look through your wedding photos.

This really is something to look forward to after the wedding. Getting, looking through and selecting your professional photos for printing is so much fun and is a great way to relive your day. 

♥  Have a broke date night.

Chances are you won’t have much money for burning after the wedding, so challenge yourself to plan a date night that costs very little or nothing. Homemade picnics, walks, drives or museum visits are good ideas for a broke-ass couple. Plus, it’s always lovely to spend some time with your hubby.

♥  Do the visiting rounds.

You’re still hot property and everyone wants to see you. In the weekends following our wedding we went all over the country visiting parents, grandparents, in laws and cousins. You’re happy and people want to be happy with you. It’s a good excuse to show off the tan too!

♥  Plan something else!

If you enjoyed the planning process, then why stop there! Offer to help plan a friends wedding, throw yourself into organising a work event or even just plan a birthday party. I’ve been enjoying planning my birthday and graduation.

♥  Focus on the next chapter. 

Hate to say it, but the wedding is over (SOB). But being married is the next chapter in your life! Fix a new goal to work towards, there is much excitement to come! Whether it be career wise, travel, buying a house, starting a family or even just successfully keeping your herb garden alive, you are bound to have some plans to work towards. 

♥  Help others.

Planning a wedding is super daunting, so if you can help other bride-to-he’s by posting advice and inspiration in forums or on blogs, then do.  I found these kind of things really helpful when I was planning and it’s good to get some honest advice. Plus, you’ll still feel involved in the wedding world! 

♥  Pack it all away.

It may be heartbreaking, but you can carry on displaying your dead bouquet/bunting/wedding cards forever. Get a cute momento box and get it out together when you want to reminisce about the day. 

Remember you are lucky.

The few times when I felt totally consumed with sadness that our wedding was over I gave myself a slap on the wrist and reminded myself ‘HEY. You are so lucky. You had a beautiful wedding and you are now MARRIED to your Prince Charming!’ Being married is awesome so appreciate it for what it is. 

♥ And if all else fails.. Book another holiday!

Yes, we have booked a second honeymoon over Christmas! We are backpacking Thailand for three weeks, so now I have that to plan! Not so bad really 🙂

I hope any new brides like me will find this helpful. If you’ve just got married and your feeling a bit down in the dumps you are not alone! Focus on the positives and you’ll soon move onto the next thing!

How did you get over your post bridal blues?!

xox