Just something I’ve been pondering lately…
It’s like… I get that competition is healthy, in the right ways. For example, in sport. You can’t have sport without competition. You’ve got to have winners and losers.
But you can’t have winners at life! #winningatlife (as much as it appears on Instagram) is not a real thing. There’s no such thing. I mean, who would define it?? Who’s to say that my winning is the same as your winning? Who’s to say that I’m achieving more/doing better/ reaching my goals faster than anyone else. The beautiful thing about humans is that every single one of us is different. Not just physically but emotionally, mentally, personality wise, which means that we literally cannot compete when it comes to life. And I think it’s unhealthy to try.
For example, some peoples goals involve reaching the very top of your chosen career, others revolve around raising a healthy, happy family, some may see success as travelling the world and seeing all the wonders of the world. No one goal is better than another. By saying that something is not my goal in life it doesn’t mean I don’t think it should be yours. By saying I think one person is beautiful it doesn’t mean I think you’re not beautiful. Everyone is. There are a million ways to be beautiful.
The only person that I allow myself to compete with is myself. I am constantly trying to beat myself, do more, do better, be the best version of myself I can possibly be.
Chasing the dreams and aspirations of others in the name of trying to ‘win’ can only end in emptiness.
Everyone is doing an amazing job. Don’t compare, celebrate. Peace and love.
(Disclaimer: This rant is my opinion and no offense is meant in any shape or form)
So, it’s the 1st September! Erm, how did that happen?! I swear it was June just yesterday? I think this summer has gone particularly quickly for me because a big chunk of it was taken up with the wedding; preparing, worrying, actually doing it and then recovering! But overall it’s been an amazing summer and the most memorable one of my life.
And so, the summer is over and I’m sad! I reallllly don’t like winter at all. But I do like the month of September. It’s kind of like the bridge between summer and autumn and sometimes we get the odd bit of good weather. Also, it’s my birthday month!! I’ll be 25 a week today! I can’t wait, I love birthdays so much.
September is a busy. busy month for me but I’m determined to keep blogging as much as possible. I feel like I’m getting into the swing of it now! Next week as well as my birthday I’ll be starting my PGCE at University, and we’ve got a lot of family events over the coming weeks. My goals for September:
♥ Have a positive start to my PGCE and give it 100%.
♥ Budget effectively when the student loan comes in to tie me over until Christmas .
♥ Try to keep up healthy lifestyle and gyming even with this very busy month and lots of parties.
♥ Have a kick ass birthday and celebrate because I deserve it!
♥ Book a cheeky getaway for October half term because.. Why not?!
Bring it on September! I can’t wait to get started.
What does September hold for you?
I am in love with rose gold – isn’t everybody?! It has really taken off in the last few years and I’ve become totally obsessed with it. It’s all over my house, my watch is rose gold, as is Paul’s. We love it.
I was so impressed that Paul chose my engagement ring by himself, totally without help from me (hence it was such a surprise) or any other female such as his or my mother. He had obviously been listening and paying attention because he actually chose a rose gold band! I couldn’t believe it. Although it’s so popular for costume jewelry, rose gold engagement rings are still quite unusual and I’ve had loads of compliments on it.
When I chose my wedding band I knew I wanted something to match my engagement ring, obviously, it would look weird otherwise. Paul ummed and ahhed about getting rose gold or yellow gold for his, but in the end he opted for rose. It’s even more unusual for men’s wedding bands but when it came we both loved it, it’s subtle and definitely not ‘pink’ but there’s something really different about it. Plus, I think that rose gold on men is super classy.
I bought my band from Fraser Hart as they have a very small rose gold selection, but believe it or not are one of the very few retailers that do it at all. I wanted something with a bit of sparkle, so I chose a ring set with tiny diamonds. As my engagement ring is a solitaire it sets it off amazingly and makes it sparkle even more.
Paul’s was slightly harder to come by; again not many retailers stock them and the ones that do whack the price up, so he ordered online. He used Orla James jewelers, who were excellent and the ring came exactly as ordered and he was very pleased with it.
I’m really pleased we chose rose gold for our rings and that we matched them, they look lovely in the photos and it’s something a bit different from the norm, a bit like our wedding and a bit like us!
If you are getting married abroad or having a beach wedding a San Unity Ceremony is a real cute and popular addition to the ceremony. We didn’t have a religious ceremony and the civil ceremonies in Greece are very short, just a few lines and the exchanging of the rings; it would be over in a few minutes! The Sand Ceremony was an add on that our planners offered and as Paul and I are total beach bums we thought it would be a nice touch and was very ‘us’.
The couple are given a vial of sand each, and take it in turns to pour it into a larger, decorative vase. It’s actually very symbolic and as your pour the sand the registrar reads words explaining how your sand is now mixed together forever, as one, never to be separated, which represents how you have become one person in your marriage and will be bound together forever. The words meant a lot to us and we were so glad we decided to have it.
If your planner doesn’t do it or you’re not using a planner you can get the vials of sand easily online, or more mean fully you could easily collect the sand yourself. If your weddings isn’t beachy I really like the idea of doing it privately on the honeymoon, like some people plant love trees, to cement your bond and you can use sand from that special place and remember your honeymoon forever.
Plus you get to keep the vase as well which is a lovely memento and looks cute in our living room.
I like collecting things. I’m definitely not a hoarder; I’m actually really good at having a massive clear out and selling a load of belongings at a car boot. I don’t have lots of belongings (in fact friends are often surprised with how little I have) but I do have a few small collections which I consider worthwhile.
I have already posted about my crystal collection, I collect fridge magnets from places I’ve visited and I collect the animated Disney DVDs. I love them all and once I had a few I couldn’t stop. They are truly the best films ever made!
The sad thing for most 90s babies is that we probably had virtually every Classic Disney movie on video as children, but these are now rendered completely useless and were donated or binned! I am now having to re purchase all the films I adored as a kid in DVD format. I sure hope that doesn’t get replaced with some other technology because I cannot replace them all again!
Anyway, I’m doing ok. So far I have:
Dumbo, The Jungle Book, Cinderella, The Little Mermaid, Aladdin, The Lion King, Pocohuntus, Alice in Wonderland (live action version), Find Nemo, Monsters Inc, The Incredibles, Ratatouille, Malificent, Tangled, Frozen.
I am challenging myself not to spend fortunes on this collection. I could do online and just order them all but that’s no fun! I only buy them from charity shops and car boot sales, so hunting them down is fun! I still need to track down a few of the old classics which, especially the popular ones, are quite hard to come buy! My top wish list ones at the moment are Beauty and the Beast, Hercules and Peter Pan.
Does anyone else collect Disney movies? How are you doing?!