Deciding to get married abroad can be a daunting experience.  There are many reasons that couples may decide they want to tie the knot somewhere other than their home country, ranging from dreams of beach weddings and beautiful scenery to escaping the stress, fuss and all that comes with a wedding. That’s not to say that getting married in another country wasn’t stressful, but from what I’ve heard it was a lot less stressful than it could have been if we’d done it at home in London!

We were lucky. Some couples who make this decision are met with families who disapprove and loved ones who can’t make it for whatever reason. Things can be challenging planning a wedding from a long way away where you can’t see things in person. Culture and language barriers can also be an issue. However, my advice to couples who dream of a destination wedding would be – DO IT! It was amazing and I wouldn’t change it for the world.

Here are some hints and tips for any couples preparing to navigate the sometimes complicated business of planning a wedding abroad.

❤️ It’s your day! Please, please remember this every step of the way. It’s so important to have the wedding that you and your partner want; not what everyone else wants. This still applies when the wedding is abroad. You may get a few eyes rolls or grumbles but just politely explain to everyone that this is your dream day and they will soon come round.

❤️ Having said that, you will need to accept that some people won’t be able to make it. Potentially some important people who you would never have imagined wouldn’t be at your wedding. Expense, time off work, children and even more unforeseeable things like health can effect people’s ability to attend. If the idea that every single member of your extended family and friendship circle has to be there then getting married abroad possibly isn’t for you.

❤️ Be sensible. If you’re choosing a beach wedding in a baking hot location then you chose it for a reason – hopefully you are a bride who wants quite a relaxed/beachy vibe?? I wore a loose fitting dress and flat sandals. A ballgown style and pair of Jimmy Choo’s would not have been appropriate. Equally, please don’t force your hubby to be into a 3 peice suit and tie in 30 degree heat!! Same applies for guests. They need to be comfortable so don’t impose a strict dress code.

❤️ Make the most of the scenery. You are in a beautiful place, you have hired a photographer – use the beauty to your advantage! Looking back on photographs is one of the best things after the wedding and you can treasure them forever. In my opinion having something different as the backdrop is truly special. We even went for a photoshoot the next day underwater in our wedding outfits which was truly amazing! I love looking at the pictures.

❤️ Use a planner. I cannot stress this enough! Some, very brave, couples do attempt to co-ordinate their weddings from the UK but I just could not deal with the stress of it! We used Zante Weddings, the longest running and most experienced wedding planner in Zante, and they couldn’t have been better. Having someone who is a) in the country to liase with vendors b) speaks the language and c) actually knows all the best companies on the island was invaluable. I definitely couldn’t have done it myself. Frances, the owner of the planners, was fantastic and managed to get everything we wanted and more.

TRUST YOUR PLANNER. If you are hiring a local wedding planner then you must trust them to organise your big day. I understand it can be hard to relinquish control of the more special day of your life but it’s important to remember that they have done this before. 100 times. They seriously know what they are doing. When having your wedding abroad there are certain things that you just can’t micro manage to the same level as you can in the UK; e.g. you can’t taste the cake flavours, see the exact colour of the table cloths or choose every single individual flower for your bouquet. This isn’t for everyone, but I loved having the stress of a million decisions being taken out of my hands. We gave our planners a vague theme and colour scheme and they delivered flowers, décor and food which was better than we ever could have imagined. Choose your planner carefully and trust them to give you your perfect day.

Relax and enjoy. Chances are, you decided to tie the knot abroad to avoid some of the usual stresses and strains that come with a UK wedding – so make sure you actually chill out and enjoy yourself! Not only are you having your dream wedding day and marrying the love of your life – but you’re also combining it with a gorgeous holiday. I was sunbathing and doing yoga by the pool the morning of my wedding! You, your hubby and all your guests will be on a holiday high and what could be more amazing than a giant holiday with family and friends. Have a ball.

I hope these tips help any couples thinking of taking the plunge and getting married somewhere other than the UK. From one bride to another; you won’t regret it!

The post-bridal blues is real. Seriously. You have spent months (sometimes years) planning and agonizing over every last detail, primping and preparing, switching between feeling excitement butterflies and sickening nerves – for one day. On this day, you are the total and utter centre of attention, people are tripping over themselves to help you, telling you how beautiful and radiant and wonderful you are (vain, I know) and what an amazing couple you make. The camera is flashing, wine is flowing, you marry the love of your life. Honestly, it’s so amazing.

But then it ends. You go to sleep a bride and wake up a wife.

BUT not to worry because if you’re lucky you’ve got a blissful week or two in paradise to ease you into married life. You have the best holiday of your life, you are so incredibly happy and you can’t wait to start your married life with your shiny new hubby.

Before you know it, you’re home. Back to work, in the same job, in the same house and you are happy, of course you are.. but it’s like… What now?!

The wedding leaves a great gaping whole in your life. Not gunna lie.

Based on my own experience of post-bridal blues and because I want to help other newlyweds avoid sitting around in their PJ’s sulking like I did, here are some ideas to beat the after wedding black hole:

 Redesign your home. 

If you already lived together as a couple the likelihood is you are not moving into a brand spanking new marital home right now, just the same old one. Getting creative and buying a few new bits, decorating or even just moving things around can help things feel a bit fresher and a can recreate some of that ‘newlywed bliss’.

♥  Look through your wedding photos.

This really is something to look forward to after the wedding. Getting, looking through and selecting your professional photos for printing is so much fun and is a great way to relive your day. 

♥  Have a broke date night.

Chances are you won’t have much money for burning after the wedding, so challenge yourself to plan a date night that costs very little or nothing. Homemade picnics, walks, drives or museum visits are good ideas for a broke-ass couple. Plus, it’s always lovely to spend some time with your hubby.

♥  Do the visiting rounds.

You’re still hot property and everyone wants to see you. In the weekends following our wedding we went all over the country visiting parents, grandparents, in laws and cousins. You’re happy and people want to be happy with you. It’s a good excuse to show off the tan too!

♥  Plan something else!

If you enjoyed the planning process, then why stop there! Offer to help plan a friends wedding, throw yourself into organising a work event or even just plan a birthday party. I’ve been enjoying planning my birthday and graduation.

♥  Focus on the next chapter. 

Hate to say it, but the wedding is over (SOB). But being married is the next chapter in your life! Fix a new goal to work towards, there is much excitement to come! Whether it be career wise, travel, buying a house, starting a family or even just successfully keeping your herb garden alive, you are bound to have some plans to work towards. 

♥  Help others.

Planning a wedding is super daunting, so if you can help other bride-to-he’s by posting advice and inspiration in forums or on blogs, then do.  I found these kind of things really helpful when I was planning and it’s good to get some honest advice. Plus, you’ll still feel involved in the wedding world! 

♥  Pack it all away.

It may be heartbreaking, but you can carry on displaying your dead bouquet/bunting/wedding cards forever. Get a cute momento box and get it out together when you want to reminisce about the day. 

Remember you are lucky.

The few times when I felt totally consumed with sadness that our wedding was over I gave myself a slap on the wrist and reminded myself ‘HEY. You are so lucky. You had a beautiful wedding and you are now MARRIED to your Prince Charming!’ Being married is awesome so appreciate it for what it is. 

♥ And if all else fails.. Book another holiday!

Yes, we have booked a second honeymoon over Christmas! We are backpacking Thailand for three weeks, so now I have that to plan! Not so bad really 🙂

I hope any new brides like me will find this helpful. If you’ve just got married and your feeling a bit down in the dumps you are not alone! Focus on the positives and you’ll soon move onto the next thing!

How did you get over your post bridal blues?!

xox

So, it’s the 1st September! Erm, how did that happen?! I swear it was June just yesterday? I think this summer has gone particularly quickly for me because a big chunk of it was taken up with the wedding; preparing, worrying, actually doing it and then recovering! But overall it’s been an amazing summer and the most memorable one of my life.

And so, the summer is over and I’m sad! I reallllly don’t like winter at all. But I do like the month of September. It’s kind of like the bridge between summer and autumn and sometimes we get the odd bit of good weather. Also, it’s my birthday month!! I’ll be 25 a week today! I can’t wait, I love birthdays so much.

September is a busy. busy month for me but I’m determined to keep blogging as much as possible. I feel like I’m getting into the swing of it now! Next week as well as my birthday I’ll be starting my PGCE at University, and we’ve got a lot of family events over the coming weeks. My goals for September:

♥ Have a positive start to my PGCE and give it 100%.

♥ Budget effectively when the student loan comes in to tie me over until Christmas .

♥ Try to keep up healthy lifestyle and gyming even with this very busy month and lots of parties.

♥ Have a kick ass birthday and celebrate because I deserve it!

♥ Book a cheeky getaway for October half term because.. Why not?!

Bring it on September! I can’t wait to get started. 

What does September hold for you?

xox

I have by no means seen every beautiful beach in the world – there are still so many on my list!- but I have been to a lot of beaches. Here is a round up of the most stunning ones I have visited in my life. All of them were pure, virtually unspoilt paradise.

Belle Mare, Mauritius.

One year ago we were here, and it’s particularly special because we got engaged on this beach! Belle Mare is one of the quieter resorts in Mauritius and the country is so chilled and generally unspoilt by tourism. Nothing but miles and miles of white sand, crystal clear water and the odd water sports centre. Also it’s mainly couples so not many young families if you’re after a less hectic vibe. Blissful.

Whitehaven beach, East Coast Australia.

Often coined the most beautiful beach in the world because, well, look at it! A tiny strip of powdery white sand so pure you can clean your teeth with it (true story) and the bluest blue shallow warm water. WOW. Only accessible by boat I exploring the island on foot and also viewed it from the air and it was totally stunning and lived up to its reputation. Only criticism is that, as it is so famous, it can get very busy. But what can you do! When you’re this beautiful your bound to get a lot of attention.

Long Beach, Koh Lanta Thailand.

The clue is in the name – a long sandy beach with beautiful shallow waters perfect for chilling and paddling! One of he quieter beaches in Lanta with less large resorts and more small beach huts so it’s got a nice ‘hippy’ vibe. I spent a lovely week here and it was my favourite Thai island for many reasons; the food, the people, but mainly the beautiful beach.

Cameo Island, Zakynthos

Okay yes it’s not exactly a beach, more like a cove BUT it’s got sea and a bit of sand and it’s totally stunning. And how could I not pick the place where I became Mrs Erler?! It may not be an endless sandy beach like the tradiontal famous beaches but there’s a reason why it’s one of, if not the most, popular wedding venues in Greece. It’s rustic; a small island only reachable by a rickety bridge and a stone staircase. Proper romantic. The sea is blue and warm and the shingle gives it a really bohemian feel. The best bit is it faces away from the land so all you can see from the bay is the open sea and the odd boat.  A perfect wedding venue, but also beautiful to visit on your holidays.

As you can tell – I love beaches! Can’t wait to explore more.  Where is your favourite beach in the world?

xox

I’m still buzzing from my amazing hen party over the weekend! You can read about what we got up to here, but I wanted to write a post about my outfit and makeup for the day, even if it’s only to remind myself in years to come how much effort I put in! The theme of the party was festival/boho which is just so me and I spent a long time searching for the perfect outfit, hairstyle and makeup so I could feel and look my best on the day.

Outfit

What could be more boho-hippie-festival that the trusty high waisted shorts/crop top/flower crown combo?! I was in love with my outfit and I felt great in it all day.  I wore this with simple flip flops as the weather was so lovely.

Crochet Fringe top: Forever 21

High waisted mint shorts: Primark

White crop top: H&M

Rose Quartz necklace: Forever 21

Flower crown: Bijoux (shop in Portugal)

Makeup

As it was such a hot day and my party mainly consisted of day time activities I did go for a natural look with a pinky/gold eye shadow and a winged black liner to give it a boho edge. I vamped it up for the evening with a brighter lipstick but this makeup look was great and lasted all day.

Primer: Bare Minerals Prime Time, Original.

Foundation: Bare Minerals Original mineral foundation, Fairly Medium.

I used a bit more than usual and just buffed it within an inch of it’s life to ensure maximum wear.

Bronzer: Bare Minerals, Warmth.

Have finally mastered contouring with this! Tiny, tiny amounts and using the right brush. It took me a while but the perfect brush I’ve found is the Superdrug mini bronzing brush.

Concealer: Bare Minerals Bareskin, Medium.

Powder: Bare Minerals, Mineral Veil.

Highlight/Blush: Laura Mercier compact, Golden Pink.

This is a creamy highlight which I don’t usually use with a mineral foundation but I applied it lightly with a brush on the cheekbones and it looked pretty. 

Eyes:

Laura Mercier eye basic, Flax.

MAC, A Natural Flirt.

MAC, Corduroy.

Laura Mercier, Coffee Ground.

Loreal liquid liner

Lancôme Hypnose Mascara

Lipstick: MAC, Angel.

Hair

I wanted to get the 70’s crimped look for my hair so I plaited it damp the night before and I ended up with the crazy, hippy hair I wanted! Simple!


I completed my boho look with a few Bohemian Jewellery Tattoos; stunningly detailed gold and silver temporary tattoos which we found at a wedding fair believe it or not! I bought several packets so I could do them with my girls on the day and they went down very well! They look amazing for parties click here to visit their website.

xox