The post-bridal blues is real. Seriously. You have spent months (sometimes years) planning and agonizing over every last detail, primping and preparing, switching between feeling excitement butterflies and sickening nerves – for one day. On this day, you are the total and utter centre of attention, people are tripping over themselves to help you, telling you how beautiful and radiant and wonderful you are (vain, I know) and what an amazing couple you make. The camera is flashing, wine is flowing, you marry the love of your life. Honestly, it’s so amazing.
But then it ends. You go to sleep a bride and wake up a wife.
BUT not to worry because if you’re lucky you’ve got a blissful week or two in paradise to ease you into married life. You have the best holiday of your life, you are so incredibly happy and you can’t wait to start your married life with your shiny new hubby.
Before you know it, you’re home. Back to work, in the same job, in the same house and you are happy, of course you are.. but it’s like… What now?!
The wedding leaves a great gaping whole in your life. Not gunna lie.
Based on my own experience of post-bridal blues and because I want to help other newlyweds avoid sitting around in their PJ’s sulking like I did, here are some ideas to beat the after wedding black hole:
♥ Redesign your home.
If you already lived together as a couple the likelihood is you are not moving into a brand spanking new marital home right now, just the same old one. Getting creative and buying a few new bits, decorating or even just moving things around can help things feel a bit fresher and a can recreate some of that ‘newlywed bliss’.
♥ Look through your wedding photos.
This really is something to look forward to after the wedding. Getting, looking through and selecting your professional photos for printing is so much fun and is a great way to relive your day.
♥ Have a broke date night.
Chances are you won’t have much money for burning after the wedding, so challenge yourself to plan a date night that costs very little or nothing. Homemade picnics, walks, drives or museum visits are good ideas for a broke-ass couple. Plus, it’s always lovely to spend some time with your hubby.
♥ Do the visiting rounds.
You’re still hot property and everyone wants to see you. In the weekends following our wedding we went all over the country visiting parents, grandparents, in laws and cousins. You’re happy and people want to be happy with you. It’s a good excuse to show off the tan too!
♥ Plan something else!
If you enjoyed the planning process, then why stop there! Offer to help plan a friends wedding, throw yourself into organising a work event or even just plan a birthday party. I’ve been enjoying planning my birthday and graduation.
♥ Focus on the next chapter.
Hate to say it, but the wedding is over (SOB). But being married is the next chapter in your life! Fix a new goal to work towards, there is much excitement to come! Whether it be career wise, travel, buying a house, starting a family or even just successfully keeping your herb garden alive, you are bound to have some plans to work towards.
♥ Help others.
Planning a wedding is super daunting, so if you can help other bride-to-he’s by posting advice and inspiration in forums or on blogs, then do. I found these kind of things really helpful when I was planning and it’s good to get some honest advice. Plus, you’ll still feel involved in the wedding world!
♥ Pack it all away.
It may be heartbreaking, but you can carry on displaying your dead bouquet/bunting/wedding cards forever. Get a cute momento box and get it out together when you want to reminisce about the day.
♥ Remember you are lucky.
The few times when I felt totally consumed with sadness that our wedding was over I gave myself a slap on the wrist and reminded myself ‘HEY. You are so lucky. You had a beautiful wedding and you are now MARRIED to your Prince Charming!’ Being married is awesome so appreciate it for what it is.
♥ And if all else fails.. Book another holiday!
Yes, we have booked a second honeymoon over Christmas! We are backpacking Thailand for three weeks, so now I have that to plan! Not so bad really 🙂
I hope any new brides like me will find this helpful. If you’ve just got married and your feeling a bit down in the dumps you are not alone! Focus on the positives and you’ll soon move onto the next thing!
How did you get over your post bridal blues?!